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TRUST
TRUST_is_a_very_important_factor_for_all_relationships. When_trust_is__broken,_
it_is_the_end_of_the_relationship. Lack_of_trust_leads_to___suspicion, suspicion_generates_
anger, anger_causes_enmity_and_enmity___may_result_in_separation.
A_telephone_
operator_told_me_that_one_day_she_received_a_phone_call. __
She_answered, “Public_Utilities_Board.”_There_was_silence._
She___repeated, “PUB.”_There_was_still_no_answer. When_she_was_going_to___
cut_off_the_line, she_Heard_a_lady’s_voice, “Oh, so_this_is_PUB.Sorry,_
I_got_the_number_from_my_Husband’s_pocket_but_I_do_not_know_whose_
number_it_is.”_
Without_mutual_trust, just_imagine_what_will_happen_to_the_couple_
if___the_telephone_operator_answered_with_just_“hello”_instead_of_“PUB”.
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NO_POINTING_FINGERS_
A_man_asked_his_father-in-law, “Many_people_
praised_you_for_a_successful_marriage. Could_you_please_
share_with_me_your_secret?”_
The_father-in-law_answered_
in_a_smile, “Never_criticize_your_wife_for_her_shortcomings_
or_when_she_does_something_wrong. Always_bear_in_mind_
that_because_of_her_shortcomings_and_weaknesses, she_
could_not_find_a_better_husband_than_
you.”_
We_all_
look_forward_to_being_loved_and_respected. Many_people_are_
afraid_of_losing_face. Generally, when_a_person_makes_a_mistake,_
he_would_look_around_to_find_a_scapegoat_to_point_the_finger_at._
This_is_the_start_of_a_war. We_should_always_remember_that_
when_we_point_one_finger_at_a_person, the_other_four_fingers_are_
pointing_at_ourselves.
If_we_forgive_the_others, others_will_ignore_
our_mistake_too.
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CREATING_PERFECT_RELATIONSHIPS?_
A_person_visited_the_government_matchmaker_for_marriage, SDU,_
and_requested_“I_am_looking_for_a_spouse. Please_help_me_to_find_
a_suitable_one.”_The_SDU_officer_said, “Your_requirements, please.”_
“Oh, good_looking, polite, humorous_, sporty, knowledgeable, good_
in_singing_and_dancing. Willing_to_accompany_me_the_whole_day_at_
home_during_my_
leisure_hour, if_I_don’t_go_out. Telling
me_
interesting_stories_when_I_need_companion_for_conversation_and_
be_silent_when_I_want_to_rest.”_The_officer_listened_carefully_and_
replied, “I_understand_you_need_television.”_
There_is_a_saying_
that_a_perfect_match_can_only_be_found_between_a_blind_
wife_and_a_deaf_husband_,because_the_blind_wife_cannot_see_
the_faults_of_the_husband_and_the_deaf_husband_cannot_hear_the_
nagging_of_the_wife. Many_couples_are_blind_and_deaf_at_the_courting_
stage_and_dream_of_perpetual_perfect_relationship. Unfortunately,_
when_the_excitement_of_love_wears_off, they_wake_up_and_discover
that_marriage_is_not_a_bed_of_roses. The_nightmare_begins.
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NO_OVERPOWERING
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Many_relationships_fail_because_one_party_tries_to_overpower_
another,or_demands_too_much. People_in_love_tend_to_think_that_
love_will_conquer_all_and_their_spouses_will_change_the_bad_habits
_after_marriage. Actually, this_is_not_the_case. There_is_a_Chinese_
saying_which_carries_the_meaning_that_“It_is_easier_to_reshape_a_
mountain_or_a_river_than_a_person’s_character.”_
It_is_not_
easy_to_change. Thus, having_high_expectation_on_changing_the_
spouse_character_will_cause_disappointment_and_unpleasantness.
It_would_be_less_painful_to_change_ourselves_and_lower_our_expectations..
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RIGHT_SPEECH_
There_is_a_Chinese_saying_which_carries_the_meaning_that_“A_speech
_will_either_prosper_or_ruin_a_nation.”_Many_relationships_break_off
_because_of_wrong_speech. When_a_couple_is_too_close_with_each_
other,we_always_forget_mutual_respect_and_courtesy. We_may_say_
anything_without_considering_if_it_would_hurt_the_other_party.
A_friend
_and_her_millionaire_husband_visited_their_construction_site._
A_worker_who_wore_a_helmet_saw_her_and_shouted,”Hi, Emily!_Remember
_me?_We_used_to_date_in_the_secondary_school.”_On_the_way_home,_
her_millionaire_husband_teased_her, “Luckily_you_married_me.Otherwise_
you_will_be_the_wife_of_a_construction_worker.”_She_answered_,
“You_should_appreciate_that_you_married_me. Otherwise, he_will_be_
the_millionaire_and_not_you.”_
Frequently_exchanging_these_remarks_
plants_the_seed_for_a_bad_relationship._
It’s_like_a_broken_egg_-_cannot_be_reversed.
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PERSONAL_PERCEPTION_
Different_people_have_different_perception. One_man’s_meat_could_be_
another_man’s_poison. A_couple_bought_a_donkey_from_the_market._
On_the_way_home,a_boy_commented, “Very_stupid. Why_neither_of
_them_ride_on_the_donkey?”Upon_hearing_that, the_husband_let_the_
wife_ride_on_the_donkey. He_walked_besides_them. Later, an_old_man_
saw_it_and_commented, “The_husband_is_the_head_of_family. How_can_
the_wife_ride_on_the_donkey_while_the_husband_is_on_foot?”_Hearing_this,
_the_wife_quickly_got_down_and_let_the_husband_ride_on_the_donkey.
Further_on_the_way_home, they_met_an_old_Lady. She_commented,_
“How_can_the_man_ride_on_the_donkey_but_let_the_wife_walk. He_is_
no_gentleman.”_The_husband_thus_quickly_asked_the_wife_to_join_him_
on_the_donkey. Then, they_met_a_young_man. He_commented,_
“Poor_donkey, how_can_you_hold_up_the_weight_of_two_persons._
They_are_cruel_to_you.”_Hearing_that, the_husband_and_wife_immediately_
climbed_down_from_the_donkey_and_carried_it_on_their_shoulders.
It_seems_to_be_the_only_choice_left. Later, on_a_narrow_bridge,
the_donkey_was_frightened_and_struggled. They_lost_their_balance_
and_fell_into_the_river. You_can_never_have_everyone_praise_you,_
nor_will_everyone_condemn_you. Never_in_the_past, not_at_present,_
and_never_will_be_in_the_future.
Thus, do_not_be_too_bothered_by_
others_words_if_our_conscience_is_clear..
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_BE_PATIENT_
This_is_a_true_story_which_happened_in_the_States. A_man_came_out_
of_his_home_to_admire_his_new_truck. To_his_puzzlement, his_
three-year- old_son_was_happily_hammering_dents_into_the_shiny_paint_
of_the_truck.
The_man_ran_to_his_son, knocked_him_away, hammered_
the_little_boy’s_hands_into_pulp_as_punishment. When_the_father_
calmed_down, he_rushed_his_son_to_the_hospital.
Although_the_doctor_
tried_desperately_to_save_the_crushed_bones,_
he_finally_had_to_amputate_the_fingers_from_both_the_boy’s_hands._
When_the_boy_woke_up_from_the_surgery_&_saw_his_bandaged_stubs,
_he_innocently_said, “_Daddy,I’m_sorry_about_your_truck.”_Then_he_asked,_
“but_when_are_my_fingers_going_to_grow_back?”_The_father_went_home_&
_committed_
suicide.
Think_about_this_story_the_next_time_someone_steps_on_
your_feet_or_u_wish_to_take_revenge. Think_first_before_u_lose_your_
patience_with_someone_u_love. Trucks_can_be_repaired.. Broken_bones_
&_hurt_feelings_often_can’t. Too_often_we_fail_to_recognize_the_difference_
between_the_person_and_the_performance. We_forget_that_forgiveness_
is_greater_than_revenge.
People_make_mistakes. We_are_allowed_to_
make_mistakes. But_the_actions_we_take_while_in_a_rage_will_haunt_us_forever.
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